Abuse is not all-pervasive behavior and it is possible for an abuser to be perfectly functional and non-abusive in his workplace relationships while being erupt with violence at home or visa versa.
Abuse is impulsive behavior and to some degree, uncontrollable. The psychological roots of certain abusive conduct (like rage outbursts) are ambiguous and unknown. However it is important to understand that at any rate, abusive behavior patterns cannot be changed at will. They require behavior modification through intensive abusive behavior therapy which might have to coupled with medication. Following are some abusive behavior therapies -
�Cognitive-Behavioral Therapies (CBTs)
A primary example of abusive behavior therapy is cognitive-behavioral therapy. In this, the treatment modalities are made on the observation that insight induces emotions. Properly handled and targeted verbal cues along with analyses of "mental tapes" (that is phrases we keep repeating in our head, such as "I am ugly", "I am afraid no one would like me" or "I am incapable of doing this") of inner dialogues and narratives, and of learned behaviors. These are then augmented with positive (and, rarely, negative) reinforcements. This is mostly sufficient to induce a cumulative emotional effect tantamount to healing.
These therapies postulate that cognition cannot influence emotion. They are meant to broach much deeper strata of the psyche. The exposure of such hidden layers induces a dynamic of healing. In this type of abusive behavior therapy, the patient is allowed to transfer his past experience and superimpose it on the analyst who, in turn, interprets this material thus revealed to the patient. In other types of psychodynamic therapy, the therapist provides a safe emotional and holding environment which is conducive to changes in the patient.
�Dynamic Psychotherapy Or Psychodynamic Therapy, Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy
This is an intensive form of abusive behavior therapy, which is based on psychoanalytic theory without free association (though it is less in use). Dynamic therapies are commonly used with "difficult" patients (suffering from all personality disorders -the Avoidant personality disorder is an exception). Dynamic therapies are eclectic, freely borrowing from other treatment modalities various modes of interpretation and other techniques. The material interpreted is obtained through free association or the recounting of dreams. A typical dynamic psychotherapist has to be a lot more active than the psychoanalyst.
Different types of abusive behavior therapy have been found effective in different cases. What is important is that that parents and society should not deal with such patients well and get them treated with the suitable abusive behavior therapy.